Learning to fly, but I ain't got wings...

My dedication to feminism has not really shown threw in the last several months as it once did when I began this blog...Does this make me less of a feminist? Of course not, however other parts of my life have taken over my intent to blog as I use to. Why? on might ask? I would have to say that it has occurred because I'm a bit stress in trying to complete my senior year at school.

The whole graduating process is absurd, of course one must take on their normal routine; going to classes, working, studding, homework, and socializing ( to keep one's sanity). Not to mention since it's your senior the assignments you are taking on are more difficult, and if you're a college like mine, you're also interning. (which is a positive experience).

Then on top of the normal aspects of life that you've been dealing with for the past four years you must;

-find a job
-find a place to live
-figure out your life
all on less sleep then you're use to. ahhhhhh Because there is not enough time to sleep and that's what I choose to give up. Perhaps not the wises choice but the best one that fits my life.

Anyway, sorry I needed to vent a bit. Less than two month to go and hopefully I'll be blogging again full time.


And don't worry my Vs are still up.

Hey Ma- What's Up?

No I am not your mother! In fact I'm not anyone's mother so please don't refer to me as one. "Hey ma"--does that line actually work? Do women/girls/females respond to that? Because I certainly don't.

It's ridiculous what males think is acceptable to say to women on the street; shortie (side note-I'm 5'8" which is kinda tall, and guys who are shorter than me have called me that--I don't understand it), hottie, sexy, baby, mamma, etc. and those are just a few of the PG names I thought of as I was writing this.

How about "excuse me miss..." That might work. Actually being polite, respectful and sounding interested in something else beside my ass.

Chivalry isn'T dead

I was fabulously surprised this past week with the two random acts of chivalry that I encountered during my daily commute on the T.

The first and the best was a young guy, around my age...your average college 20 something male (oh did I mention he was quite attractive…in fact he was the definition of the word "fine")...anyway of course the T was packed, the red sox probably just got out or something…yes this means I'm standing up juggling my Charlie ticket, ipod and cell while grasping on for dear life to that silver handle thingy. About eye level with my vagina was the guy (who was sitting). And no he didn’t offer up his seat but still he was kind. So we were somewhere around Pleasant St. on the B line when this ridiculous virgin T rider stumbles into me and nearly takes me down. Might I add that I'm not a tiny girl, a thick woman if you will, so to make me loose my footing is no easy task. Anyway, a look of fear rushes over my face as this big guy falls onto me, I am taken off guard by the strong, kind, hand that grabs onto my arm...it was that fiiinnne looking young gentleman I had noticed earlier...He saved me from udder embarrassment...because if it wasn’t for him my ass would have been on the ground...and he did it in such a calm matter that it didn’t even interrupt the convo he was having on his cell. I looked into his eyes and mouthed the words "thank you"..I'm pretty sure he knew how grateful I was.

Then the next morning I encountered another act of chivalry although this one was less remarkable. Usually people are racing past one another to secure themselves a place on the T..well not this morning in August. A guy actually backed off and although I told him he was there first to step up ahead of me...he refused and insisted on me entering the T before him...it was lovely and made my day just that much brighter.

So in conclusion, chivalry is not dead, it just isn't thriving. However I thank those out there who are kind to a woman..not because she is of the opposite sex, or thought of as weaker...but simply because it is the nice thing to do. Thank you.

The Upwelling of Lee Moretti

The Upwelling has a new addition to their band--gutarist and vocalist, Lee Moretti. She was rescently picked up by the band in early April. I had the pleasure of hearing The Upwelling at Babson College a few weekends ago, where I met Lee. She's awesome and a great addition to the band. She rocks out on stage and is totally down to earth chick that seems to love what she's doing with herself right now. Vs up the the Upwelling for their choice in their new bandmate.

Loved your show! You guys and lady totally rocked! It's not every day that you go to a concert where the opening act puts on that great of a show.

your Third Eye is Blind to Feminism

Stephen Jenkins lead singer of Third Eye Blind claims the stance of feminists to be "weak", Saturday, April 21 after a concert at Babson College, Wellesley MA. Now I am paraphrasing a lil bit but that is basically what he said. Yes I heard this with my own ears people--his words stirred deep inside of me... He went on for a few minutes as to all the various reason in which he believes us (people who are feminist)to be weak. Jenkins' reasons were that feminist separated themselves making themselves unequal..blahh blahh blahh and that we (all people) are all one yada yada yada...He went on to say that we're all human, that he is a black women, china man, Latino and named other various races, ethnicities, to make the point that ya know we as living, breathing, people should come together and not separate ourselves into such categories. Although I believe that every living, breathing human should be treated equally--regardless of whether we like it or not our society loves labels-they can't get enough of them in fact.

And sorry Jenkins you're not a woman no matter how much you think we are all one and whatnot--yeah not so much. People's differences is what makes the world beautiful and amazing, so yeah if we all truly were "one" than the world just wouldn't be half as much fun or interesting...and well I wouldn't be blogging about this right now--not that you probably care but you were right I was getting mad about your comments, but I will agree to disagree with you on this one. And although you may know how to get into a vagina, you have no true idea of what it's like to actually have one. Just like I don't know how it is to be a man, or anything else but a Caucasian, middle class female.

Okay..yeah I feel better now...

Aside from that concert was awesome I jammed out, I'm not gonna lie..and like who doesn't wanna meet a rockstar? I mean I had him sign my arm before we had this convo.

So this is how this lil convo came to be:
After the show my friend Hannah (major fan) and I got to chat with Jenkins. It was random, there was a group of people around and Hannah, Jenkins and I started talking. He made some comment to me, and my response surprised him a little. Anyway, whatever I said was motivated by my pride in my vagina...I don't know, the night was a bit of a blur but regardless, I was upset to hear him--a man who is able to sing in such ways that touches women (by women I mean me, Hannah and any other 3eb female fan), then also turn around and call me "weak"...damn...

Peace Out with your Vs Out

The Cougar is currently on vacation. No new posts until next week, try to survive without me, although I know it will be difficult. I'll do my best to bring back some tropically inspired images of feminism.

put your Vs up
~Cougs

Behind the locker room doors

There's something extremely liberating about a women's locker room...or maybe it was just because I was naked...hahaha. No, but seriously, when I'm there no one seems to notice or care that I haven't shaved in a few days. There's a mutual respect and comfort found in that locker room. When I'm in there my mind and body are somehow aligned, and I am at peace with all my imperfections.

Is 30 truly the new 20?

Is Hova right, is 30 truly the new 20?
And if that what does that make me…10 or 20?
Should 20-somethings and 30someings be doing the same thing? If 30-something guys are partying at the bar with 20-something females is that okay?...Perhaps normal even? Because really how may 30-something women do you see out at the bar on the reg..hanging out with younger guys? I guess as you get older, the age aspect of people hanging out becomes not so much of an issue. As long as everyone is having fun perhaps once a person hits a certain maturity level, age really doesn't matter?.?.

Boys2Men

*If boys are toys…That must be why men are dogs…hahaha

Just a little something that came to mind. Think about it…I think that statement works on so many levels.

A little something Silly

No big deal hahaha..this is a facebook message I received from one of my girls that i just had to share.

"Women have unique magic tricks; they get wet without water, bleed without injury, and make boneless things hard."

hehehe..I found it entertaining...thanks Whit

March for Women

Hello MARCH...You could not have come soon enough!! It's women's history month...time to celebrate all that we are!